How do you encourage bonding with an adopted child?

Submitted by Debra Murray on Wed, 01/11/2012 - 9:26pm

We're preparing to adopt a little 3 year old girl who is originally from China and who is visually impaired. I'm worried that with her visual impairment and our cultural differences it will be difficult for her to bond with us. Any suggestions?

Submitted by Amber Bobnar on Jan 12 2012 - 2:14pm

A mom on Facebook says: "We adopted our son at 29 months. I'd recommend co sleeping, having her sit on your lap while you feed her and wearing her in a good carrier like the ergo, for as long as possible."
Submitted by antdeb on Jan 12 2012 - 3:18pm

We adopted our foster child after getting her at age 5 and much neglect. I sat and rocked and sang to her for hours to get her used to me. I also had her sleep with me for a couple months. Hold the little girl close to your face and close your eyes. Now play the way you would expect her to. No peeking.
Submitted by Kris on Jan 13 2012 - 1:50am

Great answers above! Touch, talking, playing together, etc are much, much more important than vision when it comes to bonding. Many parents can see their chid but remain emotionally distant. It's not about sight.